in reply to Newbie Monk Seeking Enlightenment
It is difficult being new to anything, and sometimes we seek the comfort of others that are just as new as we. In doing so, we feel that no one knows more than we do, so no one can point out our flaws. We become a headless, directionless, comforted mass. We have no one to learn from or follow, and the ones we do follow, are following others.
Being forced to swim (or at least float around watching the swimmers) is much better for the newbie and the group as a whole.
It teaches the newbie the rules, and the community patience.
I gave you a ++, though. Don't apologise for what you think. You are a contributing part of this community.