Being right, does not endow the right to be rude; politeness costs
nothing.
What should we value more, politeness or genius? Seems to me we've
driven off a genius - perhaps temporarily, perhaps permanently - because
he wasn't polite enough to not offend anyone. Our loss.
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Our loss.
I totally agree. Our loss indeed; but it does make me wonder how our calling him on his impolitness is enough to drive him off?
It's okay for him to barate people for asking "dumb questions" or reaching "wrong conclusions", but not okay for us to question that?
Seems to me that if you can't take the heat, you stay out of the kitchen. Not only does being impolite take more effort than being polite; it invites a certain reaction that is both predictable and contextually warrented.
No amount of genius, seniority, name recognition nor earning power on behalf of an attacker removes the right of the attacked to a defense.
I have had a tendancy to tilt at windmills all my life, but I've found a quitely spoken statement of fact infinitely more effective than shouting, or being rude.
Examine what is said, not who speaks.
"Efficiency is intelligent laziness." -David Dunham
"Think for yourself!" - Abigail
"Memory, processor, disk in that order on the hardware side. Algorithm, algorithm, algorithm on the code side." - tachyon
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Not only does being impolite take more effort than being polite;
You know, you keep saying that like you believe it. It's not true in my experience. In my experience, it takes more work to not only come up with something that works to contribute to the situation, but also figure out how to say it that won't immediately put the person off because I'm correcting them. I have to take into account their likely emotional state, and their likely resulting emotional state (making a lot of guesses along the way), and even then I could be mistaken.
In what universe is that less work, rather than more? How are you continually making your claim without simply doing the math here?
Presuming someone claimed "1 + 1 = 3", which of these two statements takes longer to construct:
- No, one plus one is two.
- Well, that may have been the way you heard it, or were taught, but let me assure you that your conclusion really isn't the case. If you examine the items "one" and "one", and put them together, say, as marks on a chalkboard, you'll find that "one" plus "one" is merely "two", not "three".
Are you actually trying to claim that the latter is always easier than the former? C'mon. Get real.
I'm happy to put the extra effort in to "be polite" when the path is obvious to me and I have the extra time. But when my time is limited, I'm going to yell "get your hand off the stove, now!", and not worry about how to phrase that so as not to damage their ego. I'd rather make a difference than be well liked (as I've said once or twice before, in here).
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I don't think politeness and genius need to have anything to do with one another. An asshole is an asshole no matter how smart they are. A high IQ score does not give you any special social priviledges when it comes to being respectful of other people.
There is a big difference between an eccentric genius who is socially inept and occasionally steps on people's toes, and large grumbling Dutchman who is a very very very smart perl programmer and important member of the community but was many times was just downright rude to people.
As the saying goes; If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.
Of course, that all said, I do very much agree with what chromatic says, and many times found humor in things Abigail said as well.
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and important member of the community but
That is very contestable.
Perlmonks got along fine before Abigail.
Perlmonks got along fine after Abigail.
Perlmonks got along fine before Abigail-II.
Perlmonks will get along fine after Abigail-II.
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