If you are talking about checking a process on a "remote" server from some sort of "local" machine, and if you can run a login shell on the server (esp. if you can do "ssh that.server" from your local machine), and if both machines are *n*x or have gnu tools on them (lots of "ifs" there -- the OP leaves a lot to the imagination), then you could do something like:
ssh that.server ps -flags | grep that_process
Note that you'll need to be careful about choosing the "ps" option flags -- seems like no two flavors of *n*x use the same option definitions for "ps" these days. Just run "man ps" on that.server and read the output.