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Re: Any interesting and poignant quote

by Petruchio (Vicar)
on Mar 31, 2001 at 03:28 UTC ( [id://68558] : note . print w/replies, xml ) Need Help??

in reply to An interesting and poignant quote

People in the Monestary almost never encounter the sort of behavior that Mr. Kohanski brings up - what I want to know is why ?

I think that there are numerous reasons we could point to in explaining this... but the most important one is, because we want things that way, and work to keep them that way.

Of course, the main topic of conversation here is rather abstruse, and not to likely to appeal to your average Slashdotter. And we're not a totally open community... we've got some controls on the system, to limit crass and abusive behavior.

But we've also got a culture which values courtesy; not only moreso than does the Internet at large, but moreso than you'll find in most of the streets of America, or on television or in the newspapers. It's different, and many people here like it a lot; so much so that they often show a taste for gratuitous displays of ettiquette.

And actually, all displays of ettiquette are gratuitous. They go beyond what's needed to express the information at hand; peppering your message with "please" and "thank you" and "in my opinion" and "but I understand your view" does not make it any clearer. It simply conveys respect.

In my opinion, that's also largely why this place is a useful technical resource. I have no reason to spend my time answering other people's questions; sure, I like to have mine answered, but that's different. Neither does anyone else have a good reason help out... so just as good a question is, why does anyone bother? Why are we, thus far, doing pretty well at the prisoner's dilemma?

I think because we enjoy answering questions; which is because we mostly like each other; which is because we accept the conversational overhead involved in treating other people well.

Why are we different? Because I treat people with courtesy. Because tilly does, and because ybiC does, as do too many others to mention. Because people care enough to ask questions like yours. Because we help and enourage newcomers to learn our ways.

In short, we care and we work at it; for which I thank everybody here.

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Re: Re: Any interesting and poignant quote
by jepri (Parson) on Mar 31, 2001 at 21:04 UTC
    As a sidenote (if you're into this), evolutionary biologists try explain it in a similar way, but they invoke 'reciprocity'. The arguement is that animals (and humans) only do favours for each other if there is a chance it will be repaid. For that, you need to meet the person/creature you did a favour for, and be able to recognise them. But the critical point is that you are likely to see them and deal with them a second time.

    In ordinary discussion groups, you can change your email address and .sig and you are a different person. So there's little reason for favours, since they aren't likely to be returned.

    But around here people are attached to their names, and would rather behave than give them up.

    Please don't confuse me for someone who actually believes this gak, I've just been pumped full of it for many years. Personally I like participating in flame wars because there's no chance of me getting hurt.

    I didn't believe in evil until I dated it.

by cLive ;-) (Prior) on Mar 31, 2001 at 05:58 UTC
    I recently (2 days ago) swapped home page from /. to the monastry - at least now when I'm not working, I am working (ie, learning :)

    I value a site that doesn't get obsessed by ALL YOUR Natalie Portman Grit ARE US

    Or perhaps I'm just getting older... :)

    cLive ;-)