Try it for your benchmarks. If it turns out to be significantly faster, you can probably figure out a protocol to let you use that nearly all the time, and fall back to something slower if you need to. For example, if you use the ip as the primary key and rows are never deleted, you can:
- Try the update. If one row is affected, you are done.
- Otherwise, the row does not exist. Try an insert. If it succeeds, you are done.
- Otherwise, if it failed with a duplicate key, somebody else just inserted it. Retry the update.
- If the update fails again, something is wrong, so give up.
I did a second run with just updates, with placeholders and separate tables for in/out/cross. The rate went up but only to about 45k/min. The server is running other mysql jobs so that might be the reason. Thanks for your suggestions anyway.
I suspect you will get much faster results if you update just one table with all three pieces of data in it. Also, as others have said, make sure you have an index on whatever you use in your WHERE clause for the UPDATE. And, if your count_cross column is the sum of count_in and count_out, just leave it out and calculate it when you need it; this will help (at least a little) if reads are much less frequent than writes.
In my tests elsewhere in this thread, I was able to get about 132K updates/min out of MySQL on a 2-CPU 1GHz Pentium III, so unless your machine is much slower there is probably some performance to be found somewhere.