On the flip side of that same coin, be careful not to play the "there's nothing I can do without medication" card too soon. I'll probably get flamed into oblivion for this, but I think that things like depression and m/^ADH?D$/ are over-diagnosed these days. There is such a thing as being in the doldrums, and there is such a thing as a mis-behaved child. It doesn't necessarily mean that we have to go reaching for a little orange bottle to "cure" the "disease". "Back in the day", people did something called "pulling themselves up by the bootstraps". I think the world might be different if we remembered that. p.s. Yes, there are a lot of "quotes" in this post.