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Re: merlyn is not an ogre

by MarkM (Curate)
on Feb 19, 2003 at 18:17 UTC ( [id://236755]=note: print w/replies, xml ) Need Help??


in reply to merlyn is not an ogre
in thread A little thought about kindness

As a supplement to Ovid's defense of merlyn, I offer the following perspective:

merlyn isn't your peer, or even your friend. He doesn't see a need to engage in inefficient ego-boosting to maintain a healthy(?) working relationship with you. He is a professional in his field and is both respected and honoured by many. He is offering his free time to offer you valuable criticism. His time is valuable. He is posting a terse critical opinion with which he hopes you can find useful, without substantial cost to him. (i.e. if he had to buy you flowers every time he hurt your ego, it would cost him)

From the outside looking in, this definately can look like a snotty pseudo-intellectual baring his chest and declaring that anybody who does other than he does is an incompetent fool. But -- it can also look like somebody avoiding the usual word mincing that occurs in order to get straight to the point. What you read into it is your own choice. Whether merlyn is an a$$ or not an a$$ is irrelevant. He is offering you value for free, that he normally charges big bucks for.

Personally I think merlyn *could* soften his tone, however, I do not believe that he *must* soften his tone. If this is the way that he chooses to give out professional value for free, there isn't much you or I can, or should do to argue. He didn't slight you. He slighted your decision.

So... enjoy life a little more... :-)

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Re: Re: merlyn is not an ogre
by jasonk (Parson) on Feb 19, 2003 at 18:49 UTC

    And on that same note, I'm sure if you hired him as a consultant and paid him to answer your questions, you would probably get much less terse answers, and he might even buy you flowers when he hurt your feelings. :)

Re: merlyn is not an ogre
by crenz (Priest) on Feb 23, 2003 at 14:35 UTC

    merlyn isn't your peer, or even your friend.

    To clarify: He is not your peer, but he is acting as if he were your friend: A good friend is someone who dares to tell you that your code is crap. :)

    (That is a general statement, not related to the code in question)

      I don't know neither pg or merlyn in person, but I don't think merlyn come here as your friend.

      There was one day, this guy was shouting in the chatroom, because one of his post was down voted. He was saying something like "sometime, I don't really want to stay any more". Of course, on the other hand, he was also saying "It is not about XP point"

      Well, whether it is about XP point, god knows, he knows, everybody can judge yourself. I don't want to comment anonymously.

      But the moment merlyn said he wanted to leave, I was thinking "who cares", to most of the people here, life will go on as usual. We will not lose anything becasue any single monk's leave. On the other hand, it could be a really good thing, if we have one less such person, whose idea seems important just because his XP point.

      I am not attacking merlyn, I would say the same thing, if this is about another monk. This is not about any single person, this is about the health of this site.

        I'd refrain from the "we" as long as you choose to hide behind your trolling posts as an Anonymous Monk.

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